church arrogance & membership.....

Enter a 'new-to-you' church , and often people say HI , offer hand shake and so forth . Hang around long enough and see the REAL church . Size , in the past , made a difference , but not so much anymore . Congregations of all sizes are closed and suspicious . The 'chosen few' rule . I 'love' the old , tired line , "well , join and we'll see where we can fit you . "
Ah , well , I have come to a NEW reply , "WHY?? Why , or by what impetus should i join your church ??" I have yet to receive an answer . "You SHOULD join!" O.k. , WHY?? still no true reply in answer . " The Bible says so!" Where , AND again I ask WHY should I join your bunch??"
Arrogant on my part?? Not at all , and again I ask WHY . It isn't YOUR job to watch over my family . It is MINE , therefore i ask again , WHY . My job before God , and mandated by God is overseer of my family . Therefore , I ask again WHY . One and only ONE pastor smiled and thought it odd , and refreshing i would ask and near demand , as the church does , for , essentially ,'results' , answers , reasons , etc .
church has a list , by-laws , constitutions , requirements ....... SO DO I !! And as I read scripture , I find NOT to REQUIRE the same from the church for family and self would be irresponsible. The head of family answers to God , directly . So , don't TELL ME MY JOB .
I am hard and could NOT careless you understand . the Lord does ; test the spirits to see what sort they are ........ that ain't a blank check into "STUPIDITY" , but call to responsibility .
Don't wanna show me a church for me to be a part of ?? If I/we don't fit BEFORE joining , we certainly wont after . Church has no use for us before , they wont after . get the point ??
pops , looking for people who ACTUALLY care ........